At one time or another, people who have cellular phones may have received phone calls or text messages from persons looking for a "phone pal" or a "text mate". This is similar to having "pen pals", except that it's done through the telephone or a cell phone and it's more modern and faster compared to composing and mailing letters.
People have different reactions to such calls and messages. Some would scold the person on the other line, while others would just ignore it. Yet, there are those who accept the "friendship" being offered.
So who makes such phone calls and text messages?
He or she could be anybody - teenagers, philandering married guy/gal, maid, security guard, and even businessmen. But then again, they could include persons with sinister intentions like burglars, kidnappers, and rapists.
Why they call or text?
Often, phone pal and text mate seekers are actually in search of girlfriend and boyfriends. Whether or not the relationship that may result would grow into a serious one is not the objective here. The probability however that it would become serious is quite remote. One of the phone pals and text mates would usually ask for an "eyeball". Where both phone pals and text mates would meet each other in flesh.
There are also others who have no intention of meeting their phone pals or text mates at all. These are the kind who are simply looking for a cheap thrill. There are actually those sensible guys and gals just looking for a more meaningful conversation. There are not many of them though.
Some phone pals and text mates would even end up doing phone sex and SOT(Sex On Text).
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Your cell phone rings. You almost trip over as you race to pick your phone up which happens to be inside your bag which happens to be 5 meters away from you. Your heart pounds. You take a deep breath, then say a sexy "hello..." And it's him! You've been expecting his call for centuries, and now that he's on the other line, you grip the cell phone with such force (because of so much excitement), that your knuckles turn white. You were melting like ice cream under the heat of the sun when he says wonderful things and professes his love for you. When his call is over, you lie on your bed and daydream about him.
On the opposite line:
Gently, he puts down the phone. Then he laughs silently as he congratulates himself for making you fall in his sweet nothings.
See how cheap cell phone romance is? And to think you believed every word he said. Although there were men/women who always mean what they say on the phone, but then we should be careful and shouldn’t believe easily the things that they tell us on the phone. But cell phone conversations between a couple do have advantages and disadvantages.
I asked 10 people who were once and still engaged in cell phone romance on what were the advantages and disadvantages of the kind of “relationship” that they had or currently have. And here are their honest responses:
ADVANTAGES:
Someone to talk to
A phone call or a text message away and you know there’s someone out there whom you can talk and can text with.
It’s exciting
It is a thrill, to know that there’s someone out there that you “love” so much even though you haven’t seen each other yet.
Cellphone romance doesn’t require physical attraction
Beacause you cannot see each other, cell phone romance need not require pretty faces or voluptuous bodies. Unless of course you would take it to the “next level” which is seeing each other in person. In cell phone romance, the “not-so-good-looking” can be “really-good-looking” instantly! So even though you were “not-so-good-looking” person there’s someone in the world of cell phone romance who would fall in love with you easily.
DISADVANTAGES:
Lying is easier on the phone
One thing is for sure, cell phone conversations – may it be cell call or MMS is more susceptible to lies. You cannot see the facial expression and the sincerity of the person on the opposite line. To the untrained listener and texter, it may be impossible to distinguish the difference over the phone between a pure pronouncement of loving desire and an outright falsehood. It’s never easy detecting feeling from the mere sound of a voice. That is if you can hear the voice clearly, with all the “draining of battery”, “dead air or no signal”, and miscellaneous garbage of nose you often hear on cell phones. And to top it all, s/he needn’t be responsible for what s/he is saying because the conversation has a clear end to it: S/he hangs up or stop texting you.
Cell phone conversations are abstract
Unfortunately, cell phones have no eyeballs with which to confront him/her if he/she really means what he/she is saying. Words of endearments issue forth from his/her mouth, and have no reliable indication that they are true. Although now we have the so called “3G phone” where you can talk face-to-face with someone on the other line using your cell phone with camera, but not everybody can afford cell phones that offer 3G features.
Conversations on the phone can cause misinterpretations
This is an interesting answer I get from one of the people who were engaged in cell phone romance when asked what were the disadvantages of cell phone romance. According to my respondent which happens to be a girl, more than a few men can’t stand talking on the phone. While they may really love their girl so much, they may not be used to being verbal about it on the phone. And women might not know them well enough to rely that their deafening silence is a way of communicating their feelings. Women may think it is something profound as being cold and unfeeling.
Romance in cell phone is expensive
Talk is cheap, so they say, but cell phone romance is expensive either. You need to spend a lot of money so you can load your cell phone in order to keep in touch with your “partner”.
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Who doesn’t like to hear effusive and loving stuff? If s/he says it then just enjoy it, but we should be wise enough to know which are for real or for reel.
